Everyone talks about the “carriage scene” in Bridgerton or the sex scene between Penelope and Colin, but nobody talks about the empowering dialogue between Penelope and Colin at the end of series three.

Spoiler alert if you haven’t watched Bridgerton yet, but perhaps this is a good reason to go watch it if you like these words:

“You are her. You always had one voice… In truth I have been envious of you, of your success, of your bravery. And I simply cannot believe that a woman with such bravery loves me. How lucky I am to stand by your side and soak up even a little bit of your light.”

It’s so important to become aware of your emotions and your reactions in your body because it will improve not just your health, but your relationships and your communication skills with the people in your life.

If you are aware of your emotions, you can self-regulate and you don’t have to seek distractions, self-soothe or self-medicate with substances, food or alcohol. And then you can address the problem rather than trying to suppress it.

Relationships are the most important aspect of our lives because humans are relational beings and the relationships we have in our lives, or we don’t have, can impact our well-being, self-worth and self-esteem.

Spoilers alert… I hope you have watched Barbie the movie. If not, please click out of this blog post now.

If you have watched the movie and you felt emotional or cried about any of its content, please continue to read, because that is an indication of where you are in your healing journey.

Did you know that narcissism and people-pleasing are childhood trauma responses?

Both the narcissist and the people-pleaser are unconscious about it and they developed this trait because they didn’t feel loved, felt abandoned or emotionally neglected by their care givers.

Both the narcissist and the people-pleaser want to control their environment because they don’t feel safe in the world.

You have been giving your power away to your boss, your partner, your friends, or your colleagues. You put them in charge of your happiness, your worthiness and you’ve looked for validation from the people around you.

When you allow other people to be in charge of your own happiness, you are allowing them to be in charge of your life also, and so you need to call back your power.

Your energy is precious and you don’t want to waste it with the wrong people, with the people who will make you feel drained. It is so important to stay in your energy. Your energy is your power. That’s why you need to keep strong boundaries.

What are boundaries? And why are they so important, especially if you are a Highly Sensitive Person?

Self-awareness is the most powerful tool you can have. If you gain insight over yourself, about the patterns that you carry out subconsciously from childhood, and those beliefs that have been ruling - and ruining - your life, everything will start to change for the better.

Those unhelpful patterns and beliefs have stopped you from achieving the life you want and the relationships you desire.

Coaching helps you to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

It will also help you to become aware of your starting point and to be clear about where you want to be. This is not a given, because if as a child, you experienced some form of abuse from your parents or caregivers, whether it was physical or emotional, your self-awareness is probably clouded by those experiences.

Narcissists and Empaths have things that they could learn from each other, with the difference that a narcissist thinks they know it all. Narcissists have a sense of entitlement and superiority that Empaths don’t have.

Highly sensitive people have a really reactive nervous system and body, even being unwell physically will upset your mood and you might feel more emotional because you’re not feeling your usual self.

It’s necessary to learn how to regulate the emotions so they don’t run the show for you. You are the showman! Your emotions are valid and it’s important to experience them, to feel them fully, but they don’t need to rule your life!

So how can you become more emotionally resilient?

When we are booking a spa day or a holiday by the beach because then we will feel happy and relaxed, what we are actually doing is shopping for happiness.

It’s scientifically proven that our mind recalibrates quite quickly after having had a boost of happiness like a holiday. The trigger of having a great relaxing spa day or a week-long holiday will soon lose its benefits when you return to your normal everyday life.

Because of the overwhelm, or the fear of it, you might think that some things are too difficult for you to do, or too stressful. And you convince yourself that you just need a quiet, easy life. But have you noticed that the more you think “I want a stress free life”, the more things get stressful? Stress is part of life, whether we like it or not, and so we have to learn how to manage it.

As a child I identified myself with Tinker Bell because I could see that, just like her, I was getting offended quite easily and I’d pull up a face or I’d get grumpy if someone said or did something which upset me. I’d become angry but I was a good child, I knew I was, but because my emotions were really strong, people used to tell me I was temperamental or moody.

While I was preparing my breakfast, I had an important realization…

By putting myself and my well-being first, I’m also helping the planet!

This thought occurred to me while I was looking at my jars of seeds and tupperware of flour in the pantry. I observed how eco-friendly I had become…

For half of my life I thought I was weak, and a bit pathetic sometimes, because I was too emotional and I was taking things too seriously.

I understood why I was not able to be my true self. I didn’t know who I was!

How can you be your most authentic self if you don’t know who you are as a person.

You’re highly sensitive and you feel everything, a lot.

You feel your emotions and those of the people around you, so it can get really overwhelming at times. And you wish you could feel just a little less…

I finally understood the actual meaning of the sentence ‘your body is your temple’.

Would you enter a beautiful temple with muddy shoes and spread mud all over its sacred floors?

No, you wouldn’t. You would take your shoes off and walk in gently, with respect.

So, it’s the same with your body.

A lot of people are grieving at the moment, including myself. And so I decided to write about grief and love.

Today I opened an email and it was about the loss of a parent, then I made a phone call and the person I wanted to speak to had a bereavement in their family.

Empaths are natural manifestors and we attract what we think.

If you live in lack or fear, you attract more of that negativity into your life. For example, you might be thinking there’s not enough money, not enough beauty, not enough love in your life. You only see what you don’t have, rather than being thankful for what you already have.